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The Top Twelve Reasons Why So Many Good Black Men Are Still Single

by Eric Stevens
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Television, radio, and the Internet have been buzzing nonstop for years about the plight of single, black women looking for love, but what about all the single, black men? Nobody's been bold enough to take a stand and speak out on behalf of all the good, single black men out there looking for love too. However, now, that's all changed. The Victory Unlimited Show (www.victoryunlimitedshow.com) attacks this issue with the kind of guts, gusto, humor, and controversy that's rarely heard in the mainstream media.

Based on feedback from the show's fan base, the most recent broadcast entitled "The Top Twelve Reasons Why So Many Good Black Men Are Still Single" put forth the following list as the reasons why so many good black men are still unhappily single:

1. They keep meeting women with unrealistic expectations for what they want in a man. 
2. They keep meeting women who put them in the wrong category by writing them off too quickly as not being "their type". 
3. They're not wanted because they're not needed. Too many women have told them that they don't "need" a man. 
4. They keep meeting black women who don't respect them just because they "are" black men. 
5. They keep failing women's Girlfriend Approval Test. If the woman's friends don't like them, then that woman won't give them a chance either. 
6. They keep meeting women who are not interested in them, but only in how much money they make. 
7. They're nobody until somebody else loves them. Not enough women see them as a prize unless they see a lot of other women chasing after them first. 
8. They meet too many women who don't really know what they want. 
9. They meet too many women who believe that single, good black men are "too good to be true". 
10. They're the right man at the wrong time. 
11. They meet too many women who don't recognize a good man when they see one. 
12. They don't promote all the great things about themselves boldly or consistently enough to enough women.
-Blacknews.com

The Victory Unlimited Show is a "tongue-in-cheek," self-help show for men that's reminiscent of programs from the Golden Age of Radio. For more details, visitwww.victoryunlimitedshow.com

Daddy I wanna be a Man

Daddy I wanna be a man
But I need someone to teach me how to take a stand

I can’t turn to you because you sell drugs

I can’t lean on you because you’d rather be a thug

Daddy I wanna be a man

I wanna be there for my wife and kids

Not jet like a coward as you did

I wanna be more than a rolling stone

I wanna be the undisputed head of my home

I wanna be there for every spelling bee and football game

I wanna be more to my kids than the source of their last name

When I think of you and all the pain I’ve endured

Because you thought you wanted to be a father, but then became unsure

It motivates me to seek the higher road

To be there as a father ; to help bear the load

Daddy I wanna be a man

A man in every sense of the word

 Because anything less is truly absurd

Something more than a sperm donor I desire to be

Something more than you’ve ever been to me

Someone my kids can come to when they need affection

Someone that will hold them when they need protection

Someone through whom they can see Christ’s reflection

Daddy I wanna be a man

To say that your absence hurt is an inadequate description

Buy being a better dad than you is the healing prescription

By the way, where were you all those years?

Why weren’t you there to wipe away the tears?

Why were you not at even one game?

That name on the back of my Jersey should have been your last name

You will probably say you were busy and couldn’t make it

That’s a lame excuse Pops, so don’t even waste it

Say what? You were in jail and it wasn’t your fault

I say, you wouldn’t have been there if you had been doing as you ought

Let me save you the trouble of even responding

Don’t worry, I’m doing fine, my grandfather and me, we bonded

Daddy I wanna be a man

I wanna give my kids what I didn’t have

Someone to tickle me and make me laugh

Someone to scold me when I did wrong

Someone to be an example of how to lead in the home

I don’t know what happened to make you leave

But it’s motivated me to be there for my kids as long as I breathe

I wanna be the one to follow God’s divine plan

That’s right daddy, I wanna be a man

Dr. Rick Wallace